Meet yourself with Tender Bravery

married-wrong-personNo one wants to be wrong, or to feel wrong. That means we develop strategies to avoid this apparently nasty feeling. These strategies range from avoiding situations that may provoke that feeling, being a pleaser, denial, or on the opposite end, righteousness, stubbornness and rage.
Feeling wrong is something most people want to avoid at all costs. It’s such an undermining feeling, it’s like a big black hole that human beings desperately try and keep clear of for fear of being caught in its vortex.

And of course, given that set of rules and hidden codes, if you ever do feel wrong, it is a calamity to self. It can result in all sorts of dreadful experiences and actions.

Feeling wrong is toxic, no doubt about it. It is the toxic road that leads to shame, guilt, self blame, depression, anxiety, addiction and suicide.
That is when feeling wrong is still imbued with unconsciousness and the weight of one’s personal story.

Choosing to CONSCIOUSLY open the door to this ‘feeling wrong’ and all it represents, all it stands for, all the power it seems to hold, can be the greatest liberation from the conditioned self.

It can be the gateway that opens the door out of the matrix.
It seriously can, upon authentic inquiry, reveal the nature of what is true and what is false.

a figure wearing a halloween ghost costume
a figure wearing a halloween ghost costume

The Ghost in the Machine.

And when truth and falsehood are seen, the game of ‘feeling wrong’ is revealed as a phony ghost.
It seemed real but it was just a white sheet being waved around.

So when I have clients that have any issue to do with self worth, feeling wrong, or avoiding their own depths, we explore all this and meet it face to face, like adventurers.
When you meet yourself with tender bravery, your false face, your defensiveness, your mask of protection, dissolves under the authenticity of this self loving action. It has to.

So don’t think that feeling wrong is so bad. Just decide to reframe it and meet it consciously from now on.

Urban Holism Is Emerging – And It’s Calling Your Name

We have become so conditioned by religion and science that we do not even know we are thinking and believing from a  state of separation.

come_togetherIt is that insidiously embedded.
It informs our actions, our plans, relationships, lifestyles, choices, our values, and our health. 

We think from separation. It’s the dominant world view, and we are all imprisoned by it.

However – It was not always this way. And to survive, thrive and evolve, we have to move forward to an integrated, modern holistic model of living that has Wholeness as its abiding state.

  • The indigenous tribes believed that everything is one thing, and humans are a part of that.  They also knew, innately, that a human being is a whole being, not separate from anything.
  • Holism was the basis of the Greek Wisdom tradition.
  • The Indian system of health, Ayurveda, an over 4000 year old practice, has holism as its central principle.
  • Chinese medicine is rooted in body, mind and spirit.

We left the natural way behind with the advent of the scientific age and industrial revolution.

vivir-bien1When and why did we separate ourselves off from Natural Law?

“We decided we were above nature. We saw our gifts and skills, our minds and our unique abilities to build, create and organise, as things that put us above nature, and thus superior to it, and thus not governed by its laws. We developed our arrogance and selfish ways at the same time as we developed our separation beliefs. It was inevitable.

It has been an experiment in separation.

And we have learned so much. It is hard to say we have failed.

But separation, arrogance and selfish ways have brought us to where we are now, and we have a choice. That choice is one faced by each of us, by our collective bodies, by national bodies and by the global collective.

Do we remain as we are and fight our way to freedom. Do we war, isolate, blame, argue, defend, hate, attack, separate, toxify and pollute our way forward?

Or do we reunite, remember our holistic nature, remember the natural law, reaffirm our connection to each other, the land and the universe itself, and move forward together?

There are only two choices: Fear or Love.
Fear is the way of separation.
Love is the way of Unity.

Holism is not some woo woo, new age idea. It may have become that. But that does it no justice whatsoever.

Holism is a deep and profound understanding and embodiment of the World and everything in it. It is a profound living philosophy, not just some spa pampering idea. 

alchemy_vivdHolism is a Way of Being and Living – It is an interconnected, intelligent, caring, considerate, harmonious and loving way of living that is inclusive not exclusive. It is connected not separate. It is sharing not hoarding, and selfless not selfish. Holism is a deep understanding and living of the principle that ‘I Am You and You Are Me,’ and what is done to me is also done to you. Holism is a way of seeing life as a whole thing seeking harmony and balance. Holism IS Wisdom lived, not just thought or believed. It is a ‘living embodiment.’
But there is another thing. You don’t have to give up your urban life, everything you have and own, you don’t have to ‘go native’ and become hippy to start living deeply holistic principles. In fact don’t do that, unless you really want to.

Urban Holism is what is needed, and it is filtering through, slowly and clumsily. We see it is the campaigns for green roofs, more vegetable gardens, the growing desire for organic and natural foods, the recycling of everything we threw away like shipping containers as homes. We see it in our movements for clean energy and alternative fuels, we see it in our fight for alternative medicine. It’s growing. And it’s growing in people as well. We see it in the emergence of a vast spiritual awakening.

Holism is needed in the city, in relationships, in interactions, communications and business. Holistic principles will become the foundation of new business values in the future, because they are built on win/win/win. I win, you win, and the world wins.

‘So far from this way of living being an escape from the world, it will actually become the bedrock of a new world that is already emerging.’

img_0813Thats where you and I come in. It’s not an intellectual pursuit, nor an academic theory. It’s not something you learn from a text book, it’s a living, breathing experience of wholeness. It is a re-harmonization of body, emotion, mind and spirit. And it calls each one of us to find out where that is not happening within our lives, and then attend to it.

It’s what I call the ‘Return to Wholeness.’

You are Wholeness forgotten itself and take itself as Separate.


My role and function is to assist your transformation so you remember your true holistic nature.  This itself IS the healing principle. My aim is to reconnect you with your own love, because your own love is the nature of the universe. It heals you and it heals the world.

Thanks for Reading!

Don’t get Spiritual, get REAL – Heal Your Relationship with Your Body

Today’s blog is, for some, a contentious subject. In many spiritual circles, particularly the non duality and advaita scenes, they won’t talk about the body because, well, we don’t have one.

As far as they are concerned ultimate truth is all that matters, and in ultimate truth there is only consciousness. So if there is only consciousness why pay any attention to that which is an illusion? Just leave the body alone and don’t get caught in the distraction and addiction to that which is false.
Sounds true? Sounds right?

Well after my own investigations, self inquiry, and experience of being totally cut off from my own body most of my life, and returning to my body over a long healing period, I think I can shed some light on this matter and give it some perspective.

Amoda CR Satsang 2 sepiaI see life from both sides of the spiritual fence. I go to a lot of Satsangs as my wife is a spiritual teacher/author and she holds regular meetings (I am her videographer – one of my many roles!) – so I get quite an insight into the kinds of people that are searching for answers to deep questions.
And of course I have written my own book of healing  and been on a long and deep journey myself, AND speak to a lot of clients about body/mind/emotion issues.
Here are some of my observations.

We search for spiritual solutions to practical problems much of the time. Thats a heck of a thing to say but I can’t help but say it.
Often I see people who are cut off from their emotions and their bodies sitting in Satsang, searching for spiritual answers, asking, ‘Who Am I?’ If they get answers, and this is the big problem, the answers they get stay in the mental realm and do not become visceral, in the body, grounded and real experiences. If the answers are not embodied they are not real, they do not become living realities. And so the trouble develops that these answers stay spiritual theories, not practicalities. We can have all the theories we like, but what we need is a spirituality that delivers practical, liveable, life changing truths.

For spiritual realisations and truths to become living realities we have to address two things.
The body and the emotions.


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Carpe Diem – Is It Your Moment to Work With Me?

I am offering some deals on my Coaching if they are booked quickly!

pic for thunderbolt wordpressIf you have been putting it off, thinking about it, sort of kind of not sure but drawn to work with me, now might be your moment. I am very approachable regarding my rates. I won’t give it away but I will make it possible for us to have a win/win where we both get our needs met.

One session or a series of sessions.


Possible areas of investigation:

Wellbeing, Illness, Emotional clearing and its affect on the body health. Changing thoughts and beliefs. Feeling lost and bewildered.

Relationship – I work excellently with woman, I am a conscious man in a conscious relationship, and it gives me great insight. I love working with women.

Passion, Creativity and Power – I am also a musician so I understand how vital it is to be able to access creativity and expression. Without this fulfillment its easy to become disillusioned.

Work, Money and the World – A big big area for many people. This is a deep dive into beliefs, conditioning and the imprint of parents and ancestors. Its powerful when we unravel and separate from some of the wounds we have inherited from others.

Spiritual Being – Who are you? I know who you are but do you?

I will help you to ask the right questions, and prepare you to hear the answers.

If any of this resonates get in touch here: Contact Me. We can arrange Skype sessions quickly. I can record the session so you will have a record of it and use it for for continual growth.

Carpe Diem – Life is Short, Live it with Passion and Urgency.

Your Creativity is linked to every part of your Life.

Your Creativity is linked to every part of your Life.

It is so easily pushed aside in early life. So easily neglected and diminished. So vulnerable to casual put downs. So easily overshadowed by necessity and survival. What is it I speak of?

It is your creativity,  your unique expression of life itself. Your creativity is the way the universe, let us call it God for one moment, reveals itself and dances in form.

quote-the-breath-of-the-flute-player-does-it-belong-to-the-flute-rumi-93-43-46To paraphrase Rumi and the Ecstatic Poets, you are the flute through which God plays HIS SONG. Your creativity is part of that expression.

Yet your creativity might have been the last thing that was nurtured and encouraged when you were young. And now it hangs around in the mist of your life, haunting you with its possibilities, promising joy, release, and love. Yet it remains almost ungraspable, an elusive ghost.

And it stays just out of reach, buried beneath the weight of whats really important, namely day to day survival issues, bills, social life, tv, and thousands of other priorities that seem to push this small and tender voice aside.

Creativity is so easily trampled on by the boots of necessity.

Continue reading “Your Creativity is linked to every part of your Life.”

New Podcast – Where Spirituality and the Physical Body meet

A new podcast for you!

Another discussion and exploration of all things to do with health, wellness, emotions, beliefs and our spiritual lives. This podcast was made in light of recent global events, and I attempt to address them in my own way.

I really make an attempt to look into how we perceive reality, how we make our minds up about things, what is real and what is false.

The world is run ragged by opposing beliefs. It’s a battle ground of division.

How can we fight so much for what is illusory? How can we hate ourselves and each other so much, when the truth is that we are manifestations of the same consciousness.

It is the Matrix. And those who fight and die, those who oppress and kill, are stuck in it. But what would you and I do if our very lives, our existence was threatened by it? I wonder sometimes just how spiritual I would be if a kind of Syrian war broke out in the UK in my own homeland. If my very life was threatened, destroyed and everyone around me was in danger, how would I react?

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Podcast interview with author of The Power Of Illness To Change Your Life

Listen to this podcast interview with author of The Power Of Illness To Change Your Life.

Kavi Jezzie Hockaday is an author, musician and coach. In his book he describes his personal 10 year journey healing major illness. This profound experience took him to every part of his being, from the physical to emotional, mental and spiritual, and had such an impact on him his life changed forever, and he was compelled to share his inspiration with others.

Specifically you will hear Kavi speak about:
*The roles of conventional and complementary medicine, 
*Illness and underlying shock and trauma,
*Illness, belief and perception,
*Healing and spiritual awakening,
*Viewing life as a grand adventure.


My investigation has taught me that in these troubled times, assaulted as we are by whats falling from the skies, whats in our food, our water, whats interfering with our immune systems, our wifi, our house pollutants etc etc, and what lies we are told, what fear is created, what instability is brought to bear, the only thing that truly works is to BECOME NEO.

Neo_stops_bullets_2Become a Holistic Ninja.

Wake up, detox and heal the body on the cellular level, resolve old toxic emotions so they flow freely in the system.

Resolve through inquiry and conscious release those beliefs that drive unhelpful lifestyle choices and ‘keep the brake on.’

Tune in to higher self and the cosmic universal intelligence through deep meditation and relaxation. Tune in to intuition. Open the doors of your mind.

Align chakras.

Shift energy wherever its stuck, in base, sacral, solar plexus, heart, throat etc.
Become devoted to truth, to the authentic and the real. Its up to you to find out what real is.

Go beyond the surface understanding and see into the world.

This is how we grow to Become Neo.

Systematically, slowly, one step by giant step at a time. It comes in waves, sometimes epiphany, massive breakthrough, sometimes a slow dawning.
Don’t be attached, ever, just keep opening to the wonder, the miracle.
Be an ever evolving aspect of the Universe.


We Are Harmonic Beings

We are designed and built for harmony. We resonate and vibrate. Vibration is our essence. It is our essential nature.

And illness is when we lose that harmony. Anything can cause this disharmony. 
It can be physical, emotional, mental, or spiritual.

But the whole purpose of healing is to help the system return to harmony. Whatever is causing the imbalance must be addressed.

When the apparent separate parts of us come into harmonic alignment, and the emotions are balanced and flowing in the body, the thoughts and beliefs are affirming and life sustaining, and the soul is nourished, and of course the body is fed wholesome natural food, harmony happens naturally.

AdjustmentIts not rocket science. Its our design. We are designed with harmony in mind, because we are one with, and a reflection of, nature itself.