Meet the World on Your Own Terms

Eventually you have to meet the world on your own terms.

You have been trained and conditioned to somehow fit in. You have been told what the terms of the game are, been told what you have to be and do in order to belong to this big human family called society. Yeah, you, and me, and everyone else, have been told we have to do this, that or the other, to find our place, our niche, and that’s just the way it is, was, and will be.

The game was rigged from the time of your arrival in this dimension and you bought the whole ticket. We all did.

And how has it worked out?

Some have been successful at it. And it has to be said some folks are very very good at playing the BIG game as I call it.
BUT many are alienated and lost, confused and miserable about it all. Many creatives, artists, outsiders, many sensitives, indigos and introverts, have not fared very well at all. And they shoulder the guilt and self negating thoughts that it is their fault. But here are my observations for those specific people who can’t fit in, don’t want to fit in, but feel somehow wrong for it.

2abd27bef63ed8a9a5c92cab5c31e727You might not be designed to fit in!

Your very alienation, even depression, and your sensitivity etc could be the very signals your own soul is sending you telling you, nudging you, reminding you, that you have to meet this world on your own terms and do your own unique thing…no matter what other people, or society at large, may think, say or do.

Now, before I go any further, I am assuming here that you are a peaceful, creative, loving, compassionate and inherently kind person. I don’t want to encourage hostile, racist, misogynist people who hate others out onto the street.

But you! You have to get out there and meet the world on your own terms.
And as you get older, the incentive to do it, the urgency to do it, the pressure (from the inside) to do it, increases. Of course so does the fear, the anxiety, and the voice inside your head says,’ NO, you have too much to lose, you don’t know what you are doing, these feelings will pass, just stay in the box and shut up.’

But you know what. The impulse to offer your gift to others, the urge, if you have it, to be of greater purpose, the burning desire within you to break out and ‘do your thing,’ whatever that thing is, it DOES NOT GO AWAY.

It might live somewhere inside, in the dark shadows of your psyche, it might make you feel tired and ill, it might even make you depressed, but it will not ever go away. And upon your time to leave this sacred existence, you will ponder it. Sorry about that.

So I implore you, beseech you, invite you, cajole you, and challenge you, be bold, be daring, be true to your inner voice, no matter how crazy. Dare to step up and step out. You owe it to your self and to the world. Don’t be duped and suppressed any longer than is necessary.

You can create the rules of your own life.
You can be the one who decides the rules of your world.
It is up to you.
The world needs you.

The Butterfly People

It is not something we contemplate often, but maybe it should be. You see, we humans, and animals, and the earth, and wired together in one great tapestry.

That is not just some spiritual verbiage, or airy fairy idea about oneness. It’s a fact. We are interconnected and interlaced and our actions affect an area outside ourselves in ways we understand and, to some extent, beyond our understanding. And our inactions have the same effect.

Do you remember hearing about the butterfly effect? It said something like, if a butterfly flaps its wings on one side of the world, the effect ripples around and changes something on the other side.

Put scientifically:
“In chaos theory, the butterfly effect is the sensitive dependence on initial conditions in which a small change in one state of a deterministic nonlinear system can result in large differences in a later state.” Wikipedia

butterfly effectBut suppose, for one moment, that this also works when something doesn’t happen. What does this mean? What I mean here is that, suppose you are called to some service, to some action, but you hesitate and falter, full of self doubt or anxiety, and you don’t take the action you intuitively know is part of your destiny? If you are called but you do not go, what effect does it have? 

In other words, does ‘inaction,’ have an ‘uneffect?’

Of course the universe will always fill in the gaps we leave. Nature abhors a vacuum and will not let it happen, so the universe will build itself around what we do, or don’t, do.

But are we denying the world the opportunity to benefit from our ‘wing flap?’
Are you the butterfly that could flap its wings and affect something far away, for the better?
And if you might be, who are you to deny and turn away from that, because you feel anxious, or confused, or poor?

I have pondered this, and come to the conclusion there must be millions and millions of people wanting to ‘be of service’ and those millions and millions of people, together, could create such enormous change simply by their small actions, it is extraordinary. It boggles the mind to imagine the potential of millions of people flapping their wings, and not just once, but again and again.

six-degreesIt is not airy fairy. If you imagine the power of one tiny cell, you see potential, but in many ways not much more. But if you imagine the potential and power of that one cell unified and interconnected with millions, billions of other cells, you see a transformation that was inconceivable before. You see creatures, flowers, trees, human beings, animals…everything comes from that unity of one with many. The power is undeniable.

But now to the opposite effect. When we withhold our light, our gifts, our genius, our power, our very potential, from the world, for whatever reason, it has an impact, an effect. It has repercussions.

I think the world cries a little when we deny it our beauty and love.
Maybe it even dies a little.

During my years spent with a shamanic camp and teacher I learned a little about beauty and poetry. I was shown, and taught, that the gods of the invisible world feed on beauty, truth, poetry, chocolate and words of love, and things like this. My shaman teacher encouraged us to speak to the invisible world and offer it our beauty and poetry, offer it our chocolate and incense, expecting nothing in return.

I remember he would actually be angry when someone would hold back their beauty. He wasn’t understanding like we are supposed to be these days. He saw it as an insult to the invisible world, and therefore to life itself. He was angry that people were letting their own egos, their own smallness, or pride, or fear, block this beautiful dance between the world of form and formlessness.

His interpretation was that the invisible world that held all the secrets and the mystery, was what actually held the world together. It doesn’t want your ego, it wants your truth and beauty. If that means you cry and shake when you offer it, it loves that. If it means you stand naked in innocence and offer your soul or your confusion, it will love that. It is the world beyond ego. It’s just not put in modern spiritual terms. But it’s just as real and powerful. 

Service to others, serving something greater than self, is the ultimate beauty and love. You and I know that because when we see it, we cry. Those tears we cry are the world crying itself back to life.

irene-carr-quotes2So I hope you are seeing what I am trying to say here. I am trying to say that if we all become willing to flap our wings, to go beyond ourselves, to offer our beauty, things happen somewhere. It may be invisible to us. It may even be subtle. But it doesn’t matter.
I really believe our complacency, fuelled by our fear and doubt, bolstered by our feelings of powerlessness, will be the cause of our destruction and the destruction of our world, if were are not careful.

That is why it’s so important that we, the small people, who only have small wings, flap them all together, at the same time.

I feel the urgency of this. We are being called, each of us, to grow bigger and bolder, to sacrifice our questions and our fear, our confusion and our doubt. The way will be revealed as we walk the path. But each of us must make the first step consciously and voluntarily. 

Thank you for reading!


How To Serve?

From Self Serving to Self and Service.

It is becoming increasingly difficult for many of us, including me, to continue operating by the old rules, the old paradigm that is, ultimately, self serving.

Many of us never really fitted this model of being anyway, but we live in it and abide by its rules only by default, maybe because we don’t know what else to do, or maybe we are too scared of what ‘the other way’ might involve, or maybe we don’t feel we have enough resources to become service orientated…

So consequently many of us live in a kind of twilight world, sort of limbo. We watch inspiring things that others do to help other beings, animals, nature, the planet, and we may even donate some of our hard earned revenue to some causes, but you know what, for many people right now…ITS NOT ENOUGH. It doesn’t really satisfy our innate desire to do something for others that is greater than ourselves.

And so there is a discomfort, an uncomfortable itch that runs through our lives…A yearning to add our voice to global transformation, a hunger to help the plight of those who are so much less fortunate, or animals that are helpless and innocent, or a million causes worthy of attention.

I don’t know whether this resonates with you, but I feel this day in day out. I am sick of just trying to get my own needs met. I see others doing stuff and I think, ‘why am I not doing that, or doing my own unique thing?’

It’s not that your voice and action, and mine, is not invited and welcomed. The door of care, service, humanity, selfless service, is always open for one more…It’s not as if we are not at a critical moment of human evolution, and maybe earth evolution. It’s not as if our spiritual evolution is not connected to our physical evolution.

I think I’m just having an open conversation with myself here in all honesty. I can speak for no one else, I really don’t know what anyone else should be doing.
But I really feel this urgency today.

Does this speak to you? What do you feel? Am I alone in this frustration and feelings of limbo?
Please tell me. If we are truthful with each other about this, maybe there is someway we can help each other to gather ourselves and do something together or separately.
We all have skills, amazing skills, creativity, talent, communication..Each of us has so much more to give, and it’s needed. We hide our light for millions of reasons, some of them feelings that we hold about ourselves, some of them because of practical considerations. So many of us are, at least in our western terms, scraping by financially we hold the idea that we will do more ‘when we get ahead, or where we get a little more, or when we get secure.’ I think thats an ILLUSION. It’s not real. It’s now, here, where we are working with what we’ve got.

Let me know. I need help on this one because it’s just so important to me, but also so important to us. And mine or your action could directly or indirectly change someone’s life, or some creatures life, forever. I long to reach beyond myself. You?

This video appeared on my Facebook wall this morning and I cried when i watched it. Maybe it is the catalyst I need to something greater, something bigger and something that doesn’t have me at the centre…I just don’t know.

That Monday Blog – C’mon Baby Light Your Fire.

monday-morningDo you get that Monday feeling? I really wonder how many people do?
I even think that people who work for themselves and are actually not even affected by the Monday – Friday work thing, they get it as well. I think it’s so etched into our cultural collective experience that we feel it, regardless of whether it’s actually us who feels it! I believe it’s such a thick, pea soup kind of collective feeling that we almost can’t help but feel it..

However, I have also seen that we can learn a lot about ourselves from the feelings we don’t like. And that Monday morning feeling is one of them. I am going to be bold here and say to you, if you are having that ‘Monday morning is such a drag, another week of putting up with this shit,’ and it’s followed later in the week by the ‘Thank God it’s Friday and I’m done with that shit, gonna really enjoy my weekend,’ then there is something wrong. Sorry.

aa6224c7f3ceed835c5deafba685c702Life is short. very short. What is life about? What is YOUR LIFE ABOUT?
Sometimes, in fact a lot of the time, we really need to ask that question and answer it truthfully. It is easy to let this one slip under the weight of survivalism, conditioning, fear, and of course the demands and expectations of society. Oh God spare us from the expectations of society!
Let me tell you another thing here I have noticed in my 57 years of planetary experience. It’s fiction! Nobody gives a shit, and those who do are so scared of stepping out, they live lives of quiet desperation, trying desperately to conform to some totally fabricated values that are an illusion.

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Vision, Purpose and PASSION – Serving Something Greater Than Just Us

Find a Vision That Serves.
One thing that pulls you through life’s challenges, shadows and even personal traumas, is to be pulled and pushed by a vision that is bigger than just your life. Thats one thing I really have noticed is the big difference.
What is it that gets you out of bed in the morning?
Is it sheer love and joy of life?
Is it your kids?
Is it that damn alarm clock?
Is it a vision that serves other people and the world?
What’s your motivation to get up, get dressed, and do it all again, day in day out, 365 days a year, year in year out?
Really, I wish I had considered this and been asked this when I was, young, in my 20’s, or in my 30’s. I started asking the question in my 40’s and its taken me years to answer it..

If I could offer any advice from my 57 years of hard won transformation it is this:

Find a Vision thats sets your heart and mind on fire.
No matter how crazy that vision may feel or seem, no matter how unreachable, hold it and nourish and cherish it, feed it and water it, chase it and live it.
If it is real and true, if it is not just self serving but in service to others, to humanity or nature, or the world, it will grow in mysterious and miraculous ways.

And there will be struggle and challenge, and you will have to fight for it, and meet your own demons, and demons that appear before you. But you are going to meet those anyway, with or without a vision.

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Creativity and Awareness – Awakening – Living beyond Fear

I have been coaching a client who is an artist. She is very talented. But she has been held back by her stuff. You know the kind of stuff, self negation, lack of confidence, low energy, disillusionment etc etc. We all get it, artist or not. I have had my fair share believe me.

Two weeks back we cracked the code and she had a huge realisation. She understood, not mentally or theoretically but viscerally, in her whole being, that her entire life, thought structure, belief system, relationship, everything, had been built on fear. Fear was the elephant in the room the whole time. She had thought it might be anger, or sadness, or shame, or guilt, or self worth etc etc, but they were all covering over the fear. And here is the thing:

Fear was covering over innocence and trust, the pure and natural state of her being.
She wrote a great blog about it. Here it is:

red_pill_blue_pill-copy3All I did was point to the door. She walked through it with some willingness. You see I know the door. I’m like Morpheus from the Matrix. I know what’s going on, and I know how we cover up our true nature with walls of protection that end up imprisoning us. And then we can’t find a way out. I know the way out. It’s not particularly spiritual, but it kind of is obviously. But I don’t get too involved in the language of spirituality, it’s a red herring. To me its just cutting away the crap, and the false, and the delusion, and getting to the roots and the core. It’s all about simple awareness.

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TRUE HUMAN BEINGS needed on Planet Earth.

2016 – A Call to Truth. TRUE HUMAN BEINGS needed on Planet Earth.
Resignation or Resurrection?
Helping-OthersWhat is your greatest aspiration? To help others? Or to help yourself?
Imagine finding that these two apparent opposites are two sides of a continuum that is linked, and they are connected and interdependent.
That means your personal success and happiness are connected to your helping others. That in itself is a great insight.
And here is another insight. The better you know yourself, the wiser you become, the more you embrace your authentic self, the more power you have to impact other people’s lives.
The more you help yourself, the more you help others. Not by feeding your every ego desire, and not by surrendering yourself to greed and avarice and selfishness, but by transcending these ego needs and coming to rest as a true human beings.

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I had a Hunch you would read this – Intuition Explained

e3288974d12f8bd2f71d27f409a581b3Have you ever had a ‘hunch‘ that you should have done something, or not done something? Have you followed the hunch or have you ignored it?

If you ignored it, have you noticed that some time later when something happens you have found yourself saying, ‘Doh! I wish I had listened to my gut instinct, my hunch.”
And then you find yourself promising to pay greater attention to your intuition in the future, and then the same thing happens again?
I am prepared to bet that most of you reading this are nodding your heads.
That’s what I’m going to address here. It is important, in fact I think it’s such an important subject that it is fast becoming one of the major elements in my coaching program.
Last night I was inquiring into the nature of ‘the hunch’ with Amoda. It was born out of our intimate relationship and my own experiences, almost daily, of suddenly speaking what she is thinking, and also the times when we both have ignored our ‘hunch’ and how it always leads to wrong choices.
The hunch is obviously our intuition.

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Carpe Diem – Is It Your Moment to Work With Me?

I am offering some deals on my Coaching if they are booked quickly!

pic for thunderbolt wordpressIf you have been putting it off, thinking about it, sort of kind of not sure but drawn to work with me, now might be your moment. I am very approachable regarding my rates. I won’t give it away but I will make it possible for us to have a win/win where we both get our needs met.

One session or a series of sessions.


Possible areas of investigation:

Wellbeing, Illness, Emotional clearing and its affect on the body health. Changing thoughts and beliefs. Feeling lost and bewildered.

Relationship – I work excellently with woman, I am a conscious man in a conscious relationship, and it gives me great insight. I love working with women.

Passion, Creativity and Power – I am also a musician so I understand how vital it is to be able to access creativity and expression. Without this fulfillment its easy to become disillusioned.

Work, Money and the World – A big big area for many people. This is a deep dive into beliefs, conditioning and the imprint of parents and ancestors. Its powerful when we unravel and separate from some of the wounds we have inherited from others.

Spiritual Being – Who are you? I know who you are but do you?

I will help you to ask the right questions, and prepare you to hear the answers.

If any of this resonates get in touch here: Contact Me. We can arrange Skype sessions quickly. I can record the session so you will have a record of it and use it for for continual growth.

Carpe Diem – Life is Short, Live it with Passion and Urgency.